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  • The Hip-py Marriage

    Recently I heard a valentine’s day special interview where an orthopedic surgeon was asked if he could compare his marriage to a bone, which would it be, without batting an eye he replied, the femur. The femur/ thigh bone was the reply because that’s the strongest/largest bone in the body. When I first heard the response, I thought to myself that I too would liken marriage to the same bone. But the more I reflected on this, I realized a greater truth.

    Holding a Cadaveric hip bone, view from the side and from the front.

    Now if I were to liken marriage to a bone then it would be the hip bone. The hip bone is a composite of 3 bones ilium, ischium and pubis which finally fuse after adolescence to make the hip bone. Similarly, the covenant -marriage is a union of not only the husband and the wife but both of them as one in God who unites them.

    Another wonderful thing about the hip bone is that all three bones unite at the acetabulum (the cup of the hip joint), they come together in a ‘T’ shaped “triradiate cartilage”. This cartilaginous union of the bones allow the hip and pelvis to grow in size as the child grows and finally fuse once the child stops growing (after adolescence).

    The 3 bones uniting in the ‘T’ shaped cartilage. https://teachmeanatomy.info/pelvis/bones/hip-bone/

    The covenant of marriage unites the husband and the wife with Jesus at the cross (T). Just like these bones become one at adolescence, the man & wife become one after marriage. 

    Genesis 2:24 (AMPC). Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. [Matt. 19:5; I Cor. 6:16; Eph. 5:31-33.]

    https://bible.com/bible/8/gen.2.24.AMPC

    Just as the hip is what connects the spine to the lower limbs, the united one flesh (after marriage) should link the heaven (vertical) and earth (horizontal). 

    The hip is also illustrates the Trinity. The 3 bones united to make one hip/pelvis, God the Father, Yeshua the Son and Holy Spirit are 3 distinct personalites but One God. 

    Deuteronomy 6:4 (AMPC). Hear, O Israel: the Lord our God is one Lord [the only Lord].

    https://bible.com/bible/8/deu.6.4.AMPC

    May the oneness of the Trinity inspire our marriages to pursue oneness to become as strong and purposeful as the hip.

    God bless.🤗

  • Inter-dependence day

    70 years after India gained her independence on the same day in 2017, August the 15th, I married Shalom Philip. That was our first inter-dependence day, today it’s been 4 years since the day we said our vows.

    Some of my friends joked in lieu with the post-truth culture that I lost my independence on the day that my country gained her’s. But nothing could be farther from the truth, marriage as a covenant under Christ brings together two imperfect and incomplete individuals who find their completeness not in each other but together in Christ.

    Growing up multiple times I had heard my mom being addressed as a super-woman cause of the way she juggled but gracefully managed her school work, home responsibilities and the daunting task of bringing up two children. Now, I’ve realised that I’ve married another super-woman, because of the way Shalom manages the home, college work and demands of a toddler at home, all alone since I’m away.

    I believe every mother is a super hero but working mothers more so with the added demands and energy drain at work. Bringing up a toddler alone in a city with 2 maids and an alien culture is overwhelming to say the least but God is good and His grace has been enough. The sacrifices you’ve (Shalom) made will never be in vain, in the light of eternity our lives will make a difference, a dent in history that only time will tell.

    So, here’s to the memories made and the faithfulness of God and the adventures yet to come.

    Who could ever find a wife like this one — she is a woman of strength and mighty valor! She’s full of wealth and wisdom. The price paid for her was greater than many jewels.
    Proverbs 31:10 TPT

    #throwback circa 2017
    #throwback Kuala Lumpur 2018